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Wednesday, August 24

Simple and delicious Italian Chicken dinner for busy families

This simple and delicious Italian chicken dinner recipe is the perfect meal for a busy night. With only four ingredients you’ll be able to whip up a savory dinner in under and hour total. Click through to get the recipe!

No matter where you're at in life, fall seems to bring the start of busier days and rushed schedules. Jason and I don't have anyone going back to school this fall, but as summer dwindles away I feel like life is about to get a whole lot busier, and with a new baby on the way that's probably 100% true. 

With our already busy schedules, I'm always on the hunt for quick meal ideas that don't take a lot of preparation. This Italian Chicken recipe adapted from Iowa Girl Eats is one of my favorite quick meals. The prep is less than 10 minutes and it's so good. Like so, so good. 

This simple and delicious Italian chicken dinner recipe is the perfect meal for a busy night. With only four ingredients you’ll be able to whip up a savory dinner in under and hour total. Click through to get the recipe!


My favorite thing about this recipe is that all you have to do is combine everything in a baking dish and then throw it in the oven! It's a busy mom's dream come true. I usually pair it with pasta and Brussel sprouts, which each take a little more prep but it's still something I can tackle while Benson plays and before Jason gets home. 

This simple and delicious Italian chicken dinner recipe is the perfect meal for a busy night. With only four ingredients you’ll be able to whip up a savory dinner in under and hour total. Click through to get the recipe!

Simple and Delicious Italian Chicken (adapted from Iowa Girl Eats)


Ingredients
8 chicken thighs
1 can marinara sauce 
2 packets of pesto sauce
Mozzarella cheese for topping

Directions
Preheat oven to 425 degrees.
Lay your chicken thighs in a 9x13 baking dish; spread them evenly throughout the dish. 
Prepare pesto with 1/4 olive oil (the directions on the packets I get suggests using 1/4 olive oil and 1/4 water per packet, but this makes it really wet and you need it to stick to the chicken. You could also use already prepared pesto). Pour pesto on chicken and rub in if needed. 
Empty marinara sauce over the chicken. 
Cover with tin foil. 
Bake for 40 mins or until chicken reaches 165 degrees. 
You can add shredded mozzarella after it's finished baking or you can add sliced mozzarella on top of the chicken for the last 10 minutes (leave the tin foil off so it can melt!)

It's seriously so easy! As I was writing down the ingredients I felt like I was missing something! Please let me know if you try this and what you think! 

This simple and delicious Italian chicken dinner recipe is the perfect meal for a busy night. With only four ingredients you’ll be able to whip up a savory dinner in under and hour total. Click through to get the recipe!



Tuesday, August 16

4 tips for amazing maternity photos

Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!
Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!

I am so in love with these maternity photos my good friend and photographer Cami of Cami Nichelle Photography, took for me a couple weeks ago. Does she know how to use the sun in photos or what? I swear every photo has great lighting with the sun peaking in just perfectly! Cami is also going to be taking our newborn photos and I'm even more excited to have photos with baby girl in them! 

With Benson, I didn't do a big maternity shoot, my awesome friend Kelly was kind enough to snap a couple after my baby shower as part of my gift and they turned out perfectly as well. (You can check them out here.) However, I loved getting a couple of shots with Jason and Benson in them this time around! The one of Jason tickling Benson is going up on the wall ASAP. I'm in love with it. It captures our family dynamic perfectly.

I just wanted to share a couple quick tips to making your maternity session a success and hopefully a little less stressful for you! 

Plan outfits ahead of time

I went out and bought the floral dress with my maternity session in mind, but I didn't plan the boy's clothes until a day or two before and I was super stressed when they weren't matching me perfectly. I opted to wear the cream lace dress instead for the family photos because it was more neutral and gave me more options for the guy's outfits. 

However, I loved having the second dress for the "just me and baby" photos because it gave off a girlier feel and was much better at accentuating my bump. 

If your photographer is ok with a wardrobe change it can be fun to do different outfits, but if they aren't I would make sure you pick out outfits for everyone ahead of time that coordinate. 

Bring a distraction for your toddler

You can't tell from these photos (because, again, Cami is amazing) but Benson was having a really hard time focusing and just wanted to play with Cami's wagon carrying all of our stuff. He was completely obsessed and would freak out when we tried to pull him away from it. Which made taking photos a little more difficult, as you can imagine.

I wish I had brought candy or something to bribe him with (no shame over here!) so that we could have kept his attention. It's something I'm definitely going to think about next time! 

Cami also had a few tricks up her sleeve and used a stuffed tiger to get him to look at the camera, which was super helpful! I would highly recommend working with a photographer who is good with kids because they will think of this stuff ahead of time!

Send the family home

After we finished the family portion of the session Jason took Benson home and Cami and I kept on taking photos of just me. This was an ingenious plan thought of by Cami! We were able to stay out as late as we wanted and take as many photos as we could without having to drag Benson around. Jason also appreciated this because he didn't really want to stand around carrying Benson and keeping him out of our way. Instead they went home and played in the pool and had some fun time together. 

As a plus, I left a bag of treats on the kitchen table for Jason and Benson from Mom and baby sister saying thanks for taking photos with us. I don't know if this really helped but I feel like it didn't hurt! I like to think it was nice for Jason and Benson to enjoy some cookies once they were done with photos!

Have fun

This is the best advice for any photoshoot! I tend to get really stressed before a photoshoot because I know it's not Jason's favorite thing and I want it to go really well! But, I've found the best thing to do is let all your worries go once you're at the photoshoot. It's definitely easier said than done, but you can always tell a stressed out mom in photos. If you choose to be happy and have fun you'll end up with way better pictures. I promise.  

My absolute favorite photo from this maternity shoot is the one I mentioned in the beginning where Jason is tickling Benson. That wasn't staged, our photographer didn't tell us to do it. We were trying to get Benson to smile and now we have that perfectly captured memory of Dad doing his thing with his little boy. It's just perfect to me. 

A little bonus tip: Work with a photographer who is awesome. Cami made this session a breeze for me by suggesting that the boys head out early, she had a list of poses ready to go so that Jason wasn't bored just waiting around and she made me laugh and feel so pretty. If you're in SE Idaho I would absolutely recommend her! But, always think about your photographer's style and attitude so that you can have a fun session!



Taking maternity photos soon? I’m sharing what I did for my family maternity photo shoot and what I wish I had done to make it even better. Click through to see my tips and share some of your own!




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Tuesday, August 9

3 Tips for Creating a Rustic Boy/Girl Shared Nursery

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I’m having my toddler boy and baby girl share a room and finding the right balance of manly and feminine decor has been hard, but it’s not impossible! Click through to see my tips for creating a rustic nursery fit for a boy and a girl!

One of my biggest dilemmas when I found out I was having a girl, was figuring out how to redecorate our nursery to work for a boy and a girl. For Benson, I had done a hunting themed nursery and I loved every aspect of it. Jason and I made a lot of the decor so it was really special to me, but I knew that I wanted something girly for my little girl!

Because I didn't want to throw out everything from Benson's nursery and start new I decided to go with a more rustic, woodland nursery theme that would incorporate a lot of the decorations I already had, but would allow for a gentler aesthetic.

I struggled for weeks picking out pieces that were girly but not too girly, and other pieces that were manly but not too many, so that I could blend them together for a cute boy/girl bedroom. (If you want to see all my inspiration you can check out my Pinterest boards: Baby Boy Nursery and Baby Girl Nursery) Here is what I learned during my decorating process.

Use Symmetry


I already had a lot of boy decor with my nursery, so I needed to balance it out with girly pieces to make it feel like a cohesive room. I quickly discovered I was going to have to find a way to blend the girl and boy pieces in order to make the room work.

The easiest way for me to do this was put the boy pieces I already had over Benson's bed and then mirror it with feminine pieces over baby girl's crib. 

Before Benson was born, I made him a cute printable that says, "Ducks and trucks and eight-point bucks, that's what little boys are made of." I knew that I needed something similar for baby girl, but I couldn't find anything girly that fit the rustic, but feminine look I was going for.

Luckily, I remembered that my friend from college had an etsy shop, Chynna Hansen Designs, where she sold nursery printables and I found this perfect printable that fit my rustic design and had a totally girly-girl saying on it. I swear it was kismet.

Now, each side of the wall has a cute gender appropriate print that mirrors the other side balancing the wall out.


Add Texture


After the two printables, I started to notice that my room was looking a little flat and I needed to add pieces that would add interest and come off the wall. Adding in antlers, especially this one with the flowers, and wood pieces helped give the room more dimension.

These metal initial letters will also be making an appearance in my nursery since they give the room a modern feel. I'm thinking of adding flowers to bay girl's initials, but haven't found something to add to Benson's (if you have ideas I'm all ears!)

Normally, I just focus on using texture on the walls, but I decided to take that element to the floor as well. The second I saw this plush animal rug I fell in love with it. I can totally see Benson resting his head on it and reading a book, or having tummy time there for baby girl. It's absolutely adorable.


Find gender neutral pieces to pull it all together


On the opposite side the symmetry aspect, I needed to find a couple of pieces that were gender neutral to balance out my gallery wall.  

I used the texture elements to also act as gender neutral pieces. The wooden arrow was a great way to bring things together and ease the way from the boy side of the room to the girl side. The antler tie backs and the animal print pillows will also help create a more cohesive room without choosing sides. 

When I was choosing my color scheme I made sure to find a neutral color that I could incorporate into both sides of the room. I chose to use blush pink and sage green for baby girl's side and brown and forest green for Benson's side. Then, I added little bits of navy blue in to both of their sides to pull it all together. 

Overall, I'm really excited about the nursery now! I feel like it still represents Benson, but also has room for baby girl to grow into! 

Decorating is not a skill that comes natuturally to me, so I was so grateful to find so many shops that helped me plan my perfect nursery. I teamed up with Chynna, from Chyanna Hansen Designs to help you guys decorate any room of your house too! Chynna is giving away a free print from her shop to one of you! And don't worry she does more than just nursery printables! I'm dying over her fall printables and I'm thinking I might have to buy all of them because I can't choose just one! Enter via the raffelcopter below!



Tuesday, August 2

Planning an easy and comfortable outfit for traveling

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Pregnant and planning a trip? I’m sharing my tips for an easy and comfortable travel outfit that is perfect for all aspects of your trip! Click through to see more!
Traveling as a mom means planning ahead of time. Spend a little bit of that prep time planning a travel outfit that’s comfortable, cute and practical. It will be one less thing you have to worry about once you get to the airport! Click through to see my travel tips (including tips for being pregnant when traveling)
Traveling as a mom means planning ahead of time. Spend a little bit of that prep time planning a travel outfit that’s comfortable, cute and practical. It will be one less thing you have to worry about once you get to the airport! Click through to see my travel tips (including tips for being pregnant when traveling)
Pregnant and planning a trip? I’m sharing my tips for an easy and comfortable travel outfit that is perfect for all aspects of your trip! Click through to see more!
Traveling as a mom means planning ahead of time. Spend a little bit of that prep time planning a travel outfit that’s comfortable, cute and practical. It will be one less thing you have to worry about once you get to the airport! Click through to see my travel tips (including tips for being pregnant when traveling)
Traveling with a toddler is hard, but being pregnant and traveling with a toddler can be even more complicated. Make your trip easier by planning your outfit ahead of time. Click through to see my perfect travel outfit tips!

Back in May, we took a much needed trip to Maryland to visit our family. I think I was more excited for this trip than Jason was, except when it came to actually traveling to Maryland. We hadn't flown with Benson before the trip and he's a pretty independent kid, so I was very concerned about confining him to our laps for the five hour flight.

I meticulously researched how to entertain toddlers on a plane and texted my best friend who is a flight attendant to get more tips (p.s. she recommended letting Benson have screen time, and she was right!) After I finished worrying about keeping Benson busy, I moved onto worrying about myself. Since I was five months pregnant at the time, I wanted to be comfortable getting through security and sitting on the plane with the addition of Benson hopping between my lap and Jason's.

In an effort to prepare myself the best I could, I started outfit planning. I knew I wanted clothes that would keep me cool, but could transition into something warmer if the plan was extra cold. My to Maryland outfit ended up being way too hot so I made some changes on the way home and ended up loving this outfit for an easy, casual traveling look that was perfectly practical. Here's what I learned about outfit planning and traveling.

Don't over layer

I thought I would want light layers on the plane so that I could stay cool if it was warm, and would be protected if the air got stuck blasting me the whole flight, but I ended up being completely wrong! I was so hot on the plane ride to Maryland; I wore a pair of light joggers and a chambray top but was dying since my children acted as my own personal heaters. On the way home I opted for shorts and a t-shirt, which was perfect because Benson ended up falling asleep on me, with his blanket and that was more than enough layers to keep me warm! I also run hot when I'm pregnant and traveling in the summer made me even more prone to overheating, so I was glad to have worn shorts on the flight home. 

Wear shoes that are easy to take on and off

I'm always worried about slowing down the security lines by wearing complicated shoes that take forever to tie or zip, so I always try to wear something that's easy to get on and off. I loved wearing my Vans because they look cute and add a pop of color to my otherwise boring outfit but they are crazy easy to take off and put back on in a matter of seconds. Also, my pregnant belly was happy to not have to bend over in order to get my shoes on and off. 


Think about your hair too!

I have a hard time wearing my hair down because it's so long and it makes me hotter and honestly, gets in my way when I'm trying to wrangle a wiggly toddler! I knew when I was flying that I needed an easy hairstyle that would keep my hair out of the way and would be comfortable all day while I traveled. I'm obsessed with this double-dutch braid; I use it at least once a week! It was prefect for traveling because I looked put-together but it was totally functional. Plus, as it falls out throughout the day it still looks good! That's what Michael Scott would refer to as a win-win-win. 

A lot of times we have to sacrifice fashion for function, or vice versa, but it's totally possible to be fashionable and functional when you're traveling if  you just take a little time to plan ahead! 

Traveling as a mom means planning ahead of time. Spend a little bit of that prep time planning a travel outfit that’s comfortable, cute and practical. It will be one less thing you have to worry about once you get to the airport! Click through to see my travel tips (including tips for being pregnant when traveling)


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Tuesday, July 19

4 clothing rules that help me feel confident

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What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!
What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!
What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!
What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!
What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!

There are a lot of things about my body that I wish I could change. A lot of them are things that could change if I worked on them, like losing weight, and some of them are things that I'm stuck with forever, like being five feet tall. But, regardless of which category my body issues fall in,  I've found that focusing on the negative aspects of my body doesn't help me feel confident in my body right now.

I love this quote:

"Loving your body only when it's in perfect shape is like loving your children only when they're well behaved." 

I love Benson through all of his fits and breakdowns and I need to love myself the same way. A lot of times we let our size or insecurities dictate what we wear, but I've found that the right clothing can actually make me feel more confident. I've developed a loose set of rules for myself so that I make sure to invest in pieces that will help me feel better about my body. 

What I look for in tops to help me feel more confident


Shirts with longer sleeves

I am not a long sleeve person. Anytime I have long sleeves on they're rolled up because I feel so constricted in them. To compensate for this I used to wear a lot of cap sleeves but I always hated how my arms looked. I found that I need a longer sleeve-not necessarily a long sleeve-just a longer short sleeve in order to feel good about my arms. I love anything that hits mid-biceps because it hides the bigger part of my arms but starts showing where my arms actually look good. 

Loose fitting shirts

Ever since I had Benson, loose fitting shirts have been my favorite. The "mom pooch" is real you guys. I used to wear tighter t-shirts and they always made me a little uncomfortable, especially after a big lunch, so I've been so happy that loose t-shirts have been in style! They're way more flattering on almost every body type and they're so much more comfortable. I've even been able to wear a lot of my pre-pregnancy t-shirts during this pregnancy because they have plenty of room for my expanding belly. 

What I look for in bottoms to help me feel more confident


Knee length or midi skirts

I've always worn knee length skirts for modesty reasons, but I'm an even bigger proponent of them now that I'm a mom of a toddler! I bend over a lot more often and there's nothing more comforting than knowing that when I'm on the ground helping Benson that no one can see up my skirt. I also love getting a variety of skirt styles; pencil skirts are my absolute favorite (they make me feel so classy!) but I love a-line skirts too because they can be so fun and breezy! 

Neutral colors

I have big hips. Always have, always will. In order to not feel like a boat I use neutral colors on my bottom half because they are way more slimming on me. Dark colors are even better because they help make me look thinner. I love blues and blacks but I also like to have a little bit of fun with my bottoms so a good olive green, like the shorts I'm wearing above, help add more color and dimension to an outfit without drawing attention to my hips and thighs. I definitely stray away from bright colors because they draw too much attention to my lower half and make me look shorter as well. 

What are your go-to pieces to help you feel more confident? Do you have any clothing rules you swear by?

What we wear and how we look contribute a lot to how confident we are. Click through to see how I use my clothing to boost my confidence!



Tuesday, July 12

One mom's plan to change the world

One Mom's plan to change the world.

I've felt guilty the last few months because with every new tragedy that I hear about I don't feel angry or sad or heartbroken. I've become numb to those events. It feels so far away and so different from the life I live.

I try to put myself in the shoes of those families who have lost their brothers, sisters, fathers and mothers, and I can empathize with them. But, I also dread the arguments that will pop up after the event is over because I know the arguments these events kick up end up doing more harm than good.

The posts across social media spew more hatred and lead to friends and families fighting over what should be done. We don't fight about how we should change to improve the world; instead we fight about how the government needs to make changes to stop the violence.

This is what annoys me the most. No matter what legislation the government passes, no matter how hard they make it to buy weapons, no matter how much money they throw at studies and laws it won't change a thing. Because these incidents aren't caused by just gun owners; they're caused by people who have deep hatred in their hearts and you can't legislate someone's thoughts and feelings.

I can't stop anyone else's hatred but I can stop it from influencing my family. I truly believe that the only way we can stop these tragedies is to stop treating people like they're enemies when they have different beliefs than we do.

So, you want to know what this mom's plan is to stop the hatred? I plan to raise better children.

I will teach my kids to love. 

The first thing that we need to teach our kids is to love everyone. I've struggled over what loving everyone and accepting everyone's decisions means. I believe that I can disagree with a person's beliefs and choices and still love them. 

Loving everyone means seeing them as valued people. Race, religion, social class, ethnicity don't affect a person's worth. My personal beliefs teach me that we are all loved children of a Heavenly Father, who created us in his image. We're all different, but he loves us all the same, and I want to feel that way about people too, even the ones who drive me crazy. I know I'm not perfect and sometimes I don't like a certain person, but loving them means rising above those feelings and wishing the best for them no matter how much I don't get along with them.

I want to teach my children that having different views and beliefs is normal. People make choices that you won't think are right, but that doesn't make them a bad person. The best way to overcome differences is to learn and talk and love. 

I will teach my kids to disagree without hate. 

I love politics. I studied political science in college and loved when my professors worked to have us see both sides of an issue. I believe that everyone, no matter where they are on the political spectrum, wants what is best for the world, but we just see different ways of how to accomplish that goal. 

The problem we face now is that we are so unwilling to listen and try to understand the other side that we see them as an enemy, not as a a person with valid opinions and feelings. We disregard anything that comes from "the other side" as stupid and wrong without even taking time to consider the argument. When we jump to conclusions or refuse to listen to the other side we miss out on vital opportunities to compromise and see things from another angle. 

I want to teach my children to listen, without rolling their eyes, to other people's opinions; you can disagree and still be friends. I want to teach them that listening and considering another opinion doesn't mean they're abandoning their won beliefs. Most of all, I want to teach my children that compromise leads to better outcomes than sticking to your own guns, just because you don't want to be wrong. 

I will teach my kids to help. 

It's easy to see that there is too much hate in this world. The rise of bullying in children is astounding to me. I never felt bullied as a child, sure I was picked on but never to the point where I wanted to harm myself or others. 

I don't think I would have stepped in and stood up for other people if I had been in the situations that kids are in every day now. However, I want my children to be better than me. They can be leaders for good. My kids will know my expectations and that if they are ever the instigators of bullying they'll have their mom and dad to answer to. We won't allow it. 

I want to teach my children to step in and help those around them that are being hurt. I want to teach them that they can make a difference with their words and actions. They need to choose to be kind and to use their words to build people up not tear them down. 

Motherhood is so much more than cooking meals and cleaning the house. Motherhood is raising the next generation to be better than we are. I do not take that responsibility lightly. I live in a small town in Idaho, where it feels like the world is a million miles away. I may not be able to influence the whole world, but I can influence my world. Raising better children who love and listen and care is the best contribution this momma can make to a better world. 

Thursday, July 7

The best marriage advice I've ever received

On my wedding day my great-grandpa gave me the best piece of marriage advice. Click through to see his wise words and how I strive to follow them.


Jason and I have been married for just over five years. We've left the newlywed phase, started our family, bought our first home and we continue to pass new milestones every day.

With each stage we've passed through, I've always remembered the one piece of advice that my great-grandpa gave us right before he married us: never say "I told you so."

We live in an age where being right trumps everything else. It's so easy to make your point and prove someone else wrong with just a quick Google search. But, when we're quick to be right and point out how wrong everyone else is it hurts relationships instead of building them.

Being right doesn't have a place in marriage. Sure, one person is bound to be right in a situation, but pointing it out and making your spouse feel bad for being wrong certainly won't help build a strong marriage.

There are varying degrees of "I told you so." Little arguments, like trying to remember what time a store closes, ultimately won't hurt your marriage if you accidentally let those four little words slip, but it's the bigger arguments you really have to watch out for. Like, telling your husband that your child won't go back sleep if your husband picks him up, or that if your husband doesn't do the dishes your way they won't get clean. Those are the situations where saying "I told you so" after his failure start to hurt your marriage.

Saying "I told you so" doesn't seem like a big deal, but it slowly chips away at your spouse's confidence and feelings because what you're really saying is, "Your way is wrong and the only way to accomplish such and such task is to do it my way, the right way." Ouch.

People like to have their thoughts and feeling heard and considered. When you tell someone what to do, how to do it and then belittle them when they do it wrong it just makes them feel inferior. And no one should feel inferior in a marriage. Marriages are meant to be partnerships. You're supposed to learn and grow together not pick each other apart.

When the occasion does arise when I'm right I try to ask myself the following questions before I shout my right-ness from the rooftops.
  • How would I want Jason to treat me if I were in his shoes?
  • Will making a big deal out of being right make anything better?
  • Will I embarrass Jason by announcing "I told you so!"?
  • Does it really need to be said?
If the answers to these questions aren't positive then I don't say anything. I know I wouldn't want to be put down for trying something or thinking one way, and I don't want to do that to Jason either.

Instead of saying "I told you so" the best thing you can do is drop the issue completely. I'm a really proud person and when I'm wrong I don't want to think about it anymore. Even a well intentioned encouraging word can sting sometimes. Letting the issue go will defuse the situation and help everyone's egos recover.

My marriage isn't perfect; Jason and I don't agree on everything. Sometimes my ideas prevail and sometimes Jason has the better plan. I'm not perfect and there are plenty of times when I've tried to rub Jason's nose in my rightness, but whenever I do that it ends up causing more problems than our initial disagreement.

When I do let those four little words slip out of my mouth I instantly regret them because I don't want to cause my husband more harm. I want to build him up and saying "I told you so" doesn't help me do that.



What is the best piece of marriage advice you've been given?